GUEST TEACHER | Empower yourself as an actor—learn the basics of intimacy coordination and how to create a safe and consensual working environment on any set.
Break down the basics of intimacy coordination: consent, communication, context, choreography, and closure. Practice exercises in class to learn concrete tools and procedures for any rehearsal or performance setting.
This class will begin with an introduction to Carly and to Intimacy Coordination. Then, we will explore Intimacy Directors International’s Five Pillars (or Five C’s) of Intimacy Coordination: Consent, Context, Communication, Choreography, Closure
We’ll end with a discussion and questions.
Carly is a working actress, business owner, intimacy coordinator, and audition coach for actors in all mediums.
Carly attended Yale School of Drama for both her undergrad and her MFA, and she was always involved in the audition process for their MFA program. From watching thousands of MFA hopefuls, she learned what makes a strong, well-crafted, and inspired audition. Carly is passionate about empowering artists and helping actors discover and rediscover their passion for what they do.
Carly served as Intimacy Coordinator on the following sets: Almost Family (FOX), #LoveMyRoomie (web series), White Flags (independent film). She lives and works in LA.
Carly is also an alumna of my Studio and shares a philosophy of empowering actors with inspiration and tools. At the Studio, she also teaches a one-night workshop called HOLDING COURT: Film & Theater Monologues, and a leveling-up class called TAKING THE LEAD.
When I first met Carly years ago, she had recently graduated from Yale School of Drama and was fully committed to breaking into film and TV. I loved her focus and her approach as a highly trained actor, and I noticed that it made a real difference in her on-camera work. She had such solid foundations. She is the perfect teacher for this class!
I became an intimacy coordinator because I saw the rampant sexual harassment and assault that was taking place in acting classes, rehearsals, and on set. It struck me as crazy that there was no standard process for highly intimate scenes, especially when there are so many safety protocols for scenes involving combat and stunts. I was pleased to find other like-minded folks who were forging a path in the field, and I’m so grateful to be able to continue this work as the industry works to clarify its standards around intimacy.
What was a difficult challenge for you as an actor?
Deciding between my passion for acting and my need for stability and security.
What was a crazy or silly moment on set?
I’ve found that the best way to learn something is to teach it yourself. When I pass on my knowledge, it helps my students and me to stay in shape!
What is the main thing you wish you knew then but that you only understand now?
Salaries. We are at the top of our field and are being paid less than fifty dollars an hour for shows. I believe we should only be performing in six shows per week, and that we should demand higher wages.
What moment or experience as an artist do you feel most proud of?
Playing Maggie in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof
Who do you really look up to in your field and why?
All of the women working towards 50/50 by 20/20. I’m excited to have more female directors, cinematographers, editors, screenwriters, art directors, etc etc etc.
It was so great to have a dabbling into different areas of the class…moving from advocating to how we ourselves would choreograph an intimate moment.
It really underlined the fact that having an intimacy coordinator on set is a must for my film.
Carly led this discussion with such care for each and every one of us—truly was a joyful excavation into a not talked enough about topic of an actor’s work and process. I have been waiting for this class to be offered again and I jumped at the opportunity. I spent the majority of the session thinking how WILD it is that there is not an intimacy coordinator at every school theatre, community theatre etc etc.
carly is down-to-earth and wise
This class was fantastic, necessary, and Carly is amazing! I learned so much and I feel so much more empowered now.
I feel more empowered and knowledgeable. I wish all people in the entertainment industry took classes like these.
Wonderful. I felt delightfully uncomfortable yet respected the whole way through which made for wonderful growth and learning.
It was very insightful. I was glad to see so many directors there!
Excellent class. Thank you so much for this.
Thank you for having this workshop with Carly! She was AMAZING!!!!
This type of training allows me to clearly see what had been missing on sets for so long. I can learn how to advocate for myself and others more effectively. I recognize that many people hide or don’t acknowledge biases and traumas and on set they can feel vulnerable and unsafe. Delivering a great performance while every party is protected is a great thing.
I learned a lot about how to properly inform and prepare actors for intimate scenes as early as when casting begins, how to direct actors in intimate scenes, and how to effectively create a safe and nonjudgemental environment on set.
I feel more able to advocate for myself and my scene partners in situations that could otherwise become uncomfortable/unsafe. This was a really accessible introduction to intimacy choreo and inspired me to learn more.
I really appreciate this class. I believe it’s helping everyone feel safer. And that will lead to better work and happier people. I’m glad to be a part of the solution. Thank you!
Full disclosure—please note that we do not guarantee that actors in these workshops will be hired for any project that we might direct or cast. We do guarantee my supportive honesty and my open sharing of knowledge. We teach and coach because we enjoy supporting actors as they develop their process of working within the audition room. We seek to build their knowledge about the business of auditioning.